I can relate to this. I have been through the marriage, divorce, marriage divorce, and married again. After my divorce I was so determined to never date again. I wanted no part of being with another man EVER! I felt that I have given too many years of myself to men who had no respect for me, they did not truly love me, hurt me in many ways, and treated me like an option (or an object). However, I did end up meeting “the one”. My husband does not treat me like an option or object. He treats me like a priority. It took me a while to accept his love and kindness because I was not used to being treated so well. He puts me first. He allows me to help with decisions. He will ask or suggest, not tell me to or demand. If you or anyone you know feels that they are an option, not a priority, just wait and see; He/She is out there somewhere. You deserve the best! We all do!