How important is it to put yourself before others? How important is it to put others before yourself? I have asked myself both of these questions many times. I have always put the needs of others first. I pushed my needs aside in order to help family and friends. At times I even put needs first to those that I didn’t know.
It wasn’t until not long ago when I realized that I have been doing it wrong all these years. I went without, I was left out, I lost my apartment, I quit my job, and sacrificed so much because there were other people who needed, or I guess it is safe to say, demanded, my help. I missed out on so much because I put their needs and wants before I took care of myself.
I will not say that I wish things were different because I wouldn’t be where I am today and probably wouldn’t be married to my best friend if things would have been different. I do however, wish that things would have been different from the start many years ago when I couldn’t stand up to others and tell them that they would have to wait until I did what I needed to do.
Am I selfish to feel that way? No, I am not. We should not feel a bit selfish for putting ourselves first. I feel that I have to take care of myself and my needs, and get my things done first. I can always make room to care for others, but I must take care of myself first.
So tell me, what are your thoughts on putting yourself first? What are your thoughts on what I just talked about? I would love to hear yours.
Certified Life and Relationship Coach